Not another fairytale: The bitter truth about "soulmate"

“At that moment, it seemed to him that time stood still, and the Soul of the World surged within him. When he looked into her dark eyes…he learned the most important part of the language that all the world spoke—the language that everyone on earth was capable of understanding in their heart. It was love….It required no explanation, just as the universe needs none as it travels through endless time. What the boy felt at that moment was that he was in the presence of the only woman in his life, and that, with no need for words, she recognized the same thing.” –Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Some people say there is such thing as love at first sight. Those people believe that the moment they looked at each other's eyes, you sort of get the feeling that he/she is "the one" for you. Those who believe are also what we call the soulmate seeker. They went through all the days of their life with the thought that there is a person out there in this world that are destined to live and die together with them. But is our soulmate really going to appear out of nowhere? Or do we actually have to try and find our own soulmate?

Well, according to a Greek mythology, a long long time ago some people of the world were trying to climb up to heaven and take over the kingdom ruled by the Gods. When the famous Zeus found out about this he was mad and he decided to punish all men, women, and people who were both man and woman by cutting them into half in order to weaken their powers. Since then on people have been spending all their days trying to find their other half, or what we now know as soulmate. ("Soulmate")

It is true that there will be someone that is going to be your life partner someday. They might appear out of no where, or they might be an old friend that you happen to meet again after a long period of not seeing each other. You never know who you are going to end up spending the rest of your life with. There are millions of possibilities of who that person might be. And it of course depends on the decisions you make throughout your life. Yes, it is also true that your future life partner will suddenly appear in your life. That person might be who you think is your soulmate, but each person has different perspective on the definition of soulmate.
If the world's definition of soulmate is someone that is destined to meet us even before we actually know we're gonna meet that person, or someone that is destined to be with us forever even though we don't even know that person very well; then i don't believe in soulmate.

The fact is that people who actually believe in soulmate often give up so easily when they are facing problems with relationships. Quite a lot of times i find them solving their problems by simply saying " I don't care what happens now, if we are truly soulmates we will meet again someday". To me that is not the best way of solving your problems. Even though it is somewhat reasonable that we are meant to meet our life partner someday, but that does not mean that things will always work between the couple without them even trying to keep the relationship strong. Everyone, whether they are sure if they have met their soulmate or not , needs to work hard to be able to get a relationship working.

In my opinion, you can't decide if a person is your soulmate or not just by simply looking into their eyes and experience a special feeling inside you. Everyone needs to know a person well enough to find out if they are the key to their lock, to find out whether they are the missing piece that will complete the unsolved puzzle. If you know a person inside and out then your common sense will decide whether that person would balance your weaknesses ans strengths. And as i said before there are millions of possibilities of who that person might be. It all depends if you are in the right place at the right time when you meet someone. There are billions of people in this world and there are many people who happens to have similar personalities that you could accidentally meet.

So if you think that you feel something special when you look into someone's eyes, think twice for it might just be a regular crush. There is no such thing as love at first sight, you might have mistaken it with something that is actually called crush at first sight. It is impossible to love someone just by looking at them. You need to go deep into someone to actually get the chance to love them. About soulmates, who knows if they exist or not. The reality is you will find the right partner for you if you look hard enough. So don't just sit down and wait for your "soulmate" to come find you; for they might find someone similar to you along the way and decide to stick with them forever even before they got the chance to look into your eyes.

-Angelina-